Our builders informed me yesterday evening that they are going to work the next two weekends to finish Val’s Room ahead of schedule. Their support to us during the nine weeks they have been on site has been exceptional and this latest move is typical of a dementia friendly business. Maureen asks every day ‘when that man is going to clear his mess up’ but as soon as she sees him and his colleague her face lights up because she knows her interaction with them is alway’s positive. I’m sure we will both miss them when their work is done!
I’m working both overtime and night-shift at the moment. Maureen caught me out the other day: quite rightly pointing out that certain areas of the house were far from clean. I hastily tidied up the bathroom and the utility room before she would use the facilities. Then she told me that I ‘shouldn’t have to be doing such work as it was the responsibility of the cleaning ladies’. She is right and it is time to employ someone for a few hours a week to help keep the place clean.
Monday’s night-shift was long and arduous. Maureen was armed with a small metal table when I returned from one of my frequent trips to the bathroom. It would have come flying in my direction if I hadn’t whistled as I entered the lounge. My call sign saves my bacon on many an occasion: thank goodness my dad taught me how to whistle. How ironic that a few hours later Maureen thought I was her dad and asked me questions about his parents that I had to bluff on, as I had never met them!
Some of my cyber contacts have suggested that coaching is essential as Maureen’s presentation becomes more complex. Although they often comment on my blog, along with helpful references, they are far too busy to Skype. Therefore I have decided to revisit the issue of support from the Alzheimer’s Society: this isn’t a time to reduce my options for coaching!
I have an appointment with Maureen’s GP this morning to discuss her reluctance to take medication that was prescribed following her stroke. I’m hesitant to give her tablets covertly because if she caught me out it would feed her paranoia that I’m trying to get rid of her.
Our Key Worker is popping in this afternoon so that he has an up to date picture of Maureen’s presentation. This will also provide an opportunity to open discussions on the appropriateness of our current Care Package.