I feel better now I have raised my concerns about the way an assessment of Maureen’s capacity to consent to sex was being handled. It felt uncomfortable that I could be accused of rape if the interviewer established that she didn’t understand the implications of ‘having sex’. My concern was with both the language being used and the intrusion into our married life. Just to clear up any misunderstanding here, in my opinion, married couples don’t need to have sex – they make love. Thankfully, those concerned have belatedly accepted that we are in a loving relationship and feel no need to progress such investigations.
There is no doubt that Maureen lacks the capacity to remember that tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. My solution to avoid any embarrassment is quite simple: to continue with what we have done for years – recycle old cards. All I have to do is find the cards we have sent to each other in previous years and both select the one that we want to reuse tomorrow.
It’s my 71st birthday on the 23rd of this month so recycling of cards will be repeated once again. There will be no sweat over presents, as I will repeat to Maureen what I have said for years: ‘her presence is my present’. To those who have responsibilities under the Mental Capacity Act, I can assure you we will not be having sex tomorrow or on my birthday!