Our social worker continues to provide sound support and guidance as this unforgiving journey continues. I am pleased that Maureen recognises his contribution to our welfare as noted in Girl Friday’s log:
‘Maureen happy that the social worker came to see her. She likes that he comes to check on her.’
I’m hoping that I have set the scene for a positive reaction to two new faces this week. Maureen’s Care Coordinator will be making her initial visit this afternoon and I’m hoping that she gets off to a good start. Her involvement could lead to all sorts of outcomes that could have a positive impact on our lives.
On Thursday the Manager of the Home Treatment Team will be here to assess how we are doing. It is reassuring that she wants to see us when things are going relatively well, rather than responding to our call when we are in crisis.
We are very fortunate that professional staff in this area are person-centred and are prepared to adopt a progressive approach to supporting carers and their loved ones. The usual story with vascular dementia is a discharge from the Memory Service unless you are on medication: Maureen declined the offer of antidepressants quite some time ago. I remember vividly her response to this offer: ‘why do I need those things when you can help me’. She had witnessed her husband escape from a lifetime on mirtazapine with the support of a therapist and knew of Irving Kirsch’s expose of the misinformation peddled by the drug companies.
One further example where credit is due: a new carer at the weekend immediately hit it off with Maureen. To hear them preparing vegetables for the Sunday lunch to the Sound of Music yesterday would have made an excellent recording. I know I’m biased but Maureen would give Julie Andrews a run for her money any day. A little bird told me that my wife had a soft spot for Christopher Plummer earlier in her life: a sign of a misspent youth perhaps?