Dementia: Would Less Be More?

Image result for Would less be more pictureWe had a great day yesterday with lots of laughter, song and rest. Maureen was very busy making a helpful contribution throughout the day to all sorts of things.  The only thing that was missing yesterday was a carer: Girl Tuesday had been mistakenly cancelled.

It is well known that dementia that is predominantly vascular is a roller coaster of a ride; perhaps the Big Dipper.  There is no alternative but to enjoy the good times and roll with the challenging moments.  The danger, of course, is to think you have ever turned a corner and to accept that misused phrase: ‘that things can only get better’.  However, I’m still left wondering if a reduction in the number of carer sits might be productive as Maureen feels their visits are an intrusion on our closeness.

The only problem in this dilemma is after a bad night I’m counting the hours until 10 am when there will be someone else in the house.  When the ‘happy couple’ has had a good night together it is a different story: we both are, and always have been, happy in our own company.  In fact, we both agree we don’t really need anyone else.



About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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2 Responses to Dementia: Would Less Be More?

  1. dbb34 says:

    Imagine couples, with some paid carers living in a village together. Then you could join with others as needed or just be on your own during the good times. There would then be the extended village to help and support each other as required.

    Thrilled you had a good day.👍🏻❤️


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