Dementia: The Importance Of DNA

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Early on in our journey Yvonna our local Lloyd’s Pharmacist alerted me to the importance of DNA once your loved one has a diagnosis of dementia.  Her message of Do Not Absorb became particularly pertinent yesterday.

I returned home from my meeting with the CCG yesterday to a litany of complaints about Hilary the Carer who had been with Maureen during my absence.  Maureen thought she was a spy trying to find out about us with her endless questions.  I went along with Maureen’s reality and agreed that we didn’t need any more nosey people in our lives.

Following a siesta in the afternoon Maureen thought I was her brother: she asked me lots of questions about my wife and daughters.  Once again I didn’t challenge her reality and blagged my way through a challenging hour or so.  I changed things by going out to the shops and when I returned I was back as Maureen’s husband: her brother never surfaced with that shopping.

The interesting thing about the evening was we spent a second night together in the marital bed: sleeping of course.  For the second night running we went upstairs together and slept in our front bedroom as if that was what we always did.

I’ve just remembered I need to pop into our local pharmacy with some fruit this morning, as I caught one of them buying a stash of biscuits the other day.  Someone needs to remind them about healthy eating: they can’t always expect ice cream as a sincere token of our thanks for such excellent support.

About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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7 Responses to Dementia: The Importance Of DNA

  1. How wonderful! A time to cherish 😊 And yes, we professionals need more than chocolate 😉 x x


  2. Diane Brooks says:

    Like you I always just take whatever John says as reality and go with that, keeps things calm.

    With clothing; for both Mum and John I gradually eliminated clothes that were more difficult to put on or launder, I found that easiest.

    Both Mum and John are rummagers and pull everything out of cupboards. In the bedroom I left the clothes that were not often worn and I set up shelves in the lounge where I kept the clothes we were using. This way I was able to lay my hands on the clothes required and not have to spend half an hour finding two sox the same.


    • Remember Me says:

      Maureen is also a rummager Diane, I thjink it is a time filler. I often spend time playing a game of pairing up socks a sort of competition each morning to see how many I can find.


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