Dementia: Notice To Quit

Maureen often wants to go back to the house where we used to live in Coventry.  I heard from my sister in law yesterday that would have meant we would have been five minutes away from the Nursing Home my brother is being moved into on the 15th of August.  It is a shame we won’t be near to John because my Big Brother is a good man.

The circumstances of his move are unpalatable: he has been given notice to quit his current Nursing Home.  The reason is quite simple – Jean his wife has raised questions about the level of care.  In the last month or so John has been plagued by oral thrush and nursing staff at his Home have been complacent about his condition.

John has advanced Alzheimer’s he is on Continuing Health Care and is no longer able to look after himself.  The price of Jean raising questions about his care: EVICTION!

How sad that elderly people who are not able to speak up for themselves are neglected.  It’s a shame we won’t be as close by as Maureen would have liked but I look forward to seeing my brother in his new Home as soon as possible.

About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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11 Responses to Dementia: Notice To Quit

  1. AmazingSusan says:

    Yes, this is one of the reasons why care doesn’t improve. People who point out deficiencies are punished instead of listened to. Long-term care facilities have all the power and essentially hold our loved ones hostage 😦 I’m going to use your brother’s story as an example in an upcoming post.


    • Remember Me says:

      Thanks Susan for your support. He’d been in that place for 5 years. They recently moved him and others upstairs so no access to fresh air. I’m sure he won’t miss the pop music that was an incessant background to his life. John was a great jiver and would have preferred much ealier stuff to the babble that they subjected him too. I’m tempted to name and shame but not while he is stiil in their clutches.


      • AmazingSusan says:

        “in their clutches” describes it perfectly 😦


      • Remember Me says:

        I think they deserve the front page of the Local Paper at the right time. However his wife might shy away from the publicity. Unfortunately she has enough to deal with at the moment without media attention.

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      • AmazingSusan says:

        Yes, and that’s also one of the problems, people are afraid to speak out, and so it goes on 😦


      • Remember Me says:

        We have all been a little reluctant to address issues at my my mum’s Care Home where the Activities Organiser is a volunteer who is there for her benefit rather than the residents. I don’t think my mum would be using a walking frame if they had taken more trouble to encourage her mobility. At least they address her as Betty: Maureen was called ‘darling’ or ‘sweetheart’ in Ladysmith Road and they claimed to be person-centred!


  2. Sad, yes, and infuriating! And outrageous!


  3. Such a sad situation, I’m so sorry to read this. I really don’t know what the answer is…


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