Dementia: Excellent Support

I could not have asked for more appropriate support than I received yesterday.  When Gail, our carer, arrived she was so shocked by Maureen’s presentation that she advised me to get her ‘checked out’.  She hadn’t seen Maureen for a couple of weeks and was rather taken aback by this confused woman wandering around our front drive incoherent and looking lost.

My early morning phone call to the Home Treatment Team led to Karen a Mental Health Nurse arriving late afternoon.  Maureen was asleep when Karen arrived and we had a helpful chat until Maureen wandered into the kitchen half-awake from dozing on the sofa.  It was reassuring to hear Karen say that ‘we wouldn’t advise doing anything different’.  She also gave me some helpful coaching on how to deal with some of the issues that Maureen was raising: advising that distraction has its limitations and can lead to frustration when the issues that are raised are not adequately addressed.

Maureen clearly enjoyed Karen being here and once she had woken up was in good form. I listened intently as Karen confirmed her role not shirking the need to deal with sensitive issues of mental health and memory issues.  I’m confident that ‘Sitting next to Karen’ will increase my effectiveness as a Care Partner.

Flexible Sue, our social worker, is due mid-morning for one of her regular visits.  We caught up on Tuesday and she is scheduling a further Cares Assessment as soon as she finds space in her diary.

Maureen is singing this morning and there is no doubt that phone contact with one of her sons yesterday has really helped her mood.  The sun is shining here this morning so on we go with another lovely day pending in Costa del Cleethorpes.  

About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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2 Responses to Dementia: Excellent Support

  1. AmazingSusan says:

    Just an FYI in case you didn’t know Paul: a sudden change in presentation to one that is more confused, lethargic, and/or with a rapid and significant increase in dementia-like symptoms may be an indication of a urinary tract infection. This is something I learned long into the journey. Maybe you know already, but in case you didn’t I thought it worth sharing.


  2. Remember Me says:

    There is no sign of infection according to the tests.


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